Like I said, pain is a cycle. We hurt others because someone hurt us and so on and so on.
Looking for Alaska is a powerful book by John Green with the most interesting concept being that life is a labyrinth of suffering and the only way out is forgiveness.
He was gone, and I did not have time to tell him what I had just now realized: that I forgave him, and that she forgave us, and that we had to forgive to survive in the labyrinth. There were so many of us who would have to live with things done and things left undone that day. Things that did not go right, things that seemed okay at the time because we could not see the future. If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions. But we can’t know better until knowing better is useless.
We wander through this labyrinth of suffering, running into dead ends, so lost and the only way to emerge from the maze is to forgive and stop passing on our pain. We must forgive those who hurt us and let go of the pain that we become lost in.